After having approximately one million (okay five) children and attending one billion baby showers, I have a number of baby shower tips to keep you stress free! These baby shower tips will help you throw a killer shower or help you, if you are the mom-to-be, know what things you might say you’re into. Or NOT into.
Thanks to Basic Invite for sponsoring this post! All opinions are, as always, my own.
Baby Shower Tips to Keep You Stress Free
Cut Down on the Cooks in the Kitchen
I love this expression, which I’ve been trying to teach my kids. Planning a shower with multiple people can mean a better split of the costs (see the next tip for more on that), but it can also mean more power struggles, more conflict, and more difficulty planning. If you are asked to be one of more than three hosts, consider opting out of a full hosting, but ask what you can contribute instead. This might keep you out of the fray and actually make it easier to have fewer voices, but still allow you to participate.
Be Up Front about Costs
Even if you are planning with your besties, be clear about what the cost will be and what you can contribute. Money is hard talk, but it can become ugly talk when it comes to something like this. I once helped with a shower when Rob was out of work and said I could only help if it was affordable. I wasn’t clear about what that meant, exactly. So the other shower planners came back with a $150 cost per hostess PLUS the cost of the things we were making. That was beyond our reach at that time! And because I hadn’t been super clear, it caused some issues. (Which we worked out!)
It’s awkward to talk about money, but MORE awkward if you have to talk about it later on in the process.
Plan Based on the Mom-to-Be, Not YOU
Even though as adults, we know this more, it can still be hard. Especially if the mom-to-be has really different tastes! But it is HER day. Keep in mind that this is about her taste and her wishes, not yours. Even if you really don’t love what she chooses!
Make Invitations Simple
A lot of people have moved to online invitations, which can work really well. But there is something special about an actual card that you can hold in your hand and put inside of a baby book or keepsake album. The goal is to find baby shower thank you card that don’t LOOK cheap. You don’t want to blow the budget on the invites. (If you blow it anywhere, it should be on FOOD.) Here are a few examples I loved (they also have twin baby shower invitations):
If you ARE going to order cards, I love the options with Basic Invite because you can order a custom sample before you place your order. As in: a printed sample of YOUR invitation. Pretty neat, right? This will mean thinking ahead, but it would be neat to see this. And also, being someone who has had my name misspelled even on wedding invites, you can check for typos.
Don’t Make Your Own Petit Fours (aka: Hire Some Stuff Out)
I learned the hard way that petit fours (you know, those cute little decorative cakes) are NOT easy to make at home. No matter what anyone or the internet tells you. Just don’t. Some things you should not attempt at home. Hire them out. Or do what I did: make something else that you rock at making. My go-to recipe is my iced sugar cookies. They are adorable and turn out well every time. I have a set of baby shower cookie cutters I bought on Amazon that have gotten a ton of use over the years!
Think Outside the Box
Don’t feel like you HAVE to do games. I mean, don’t skip them if the mom-to-be wants them, but some of these guessing the baby food out of the diaper games are a little gross for some people. You can see my post on out-of-the-box baby shower ideas that has some games that I thought were REALLY fun (that I made up).
Remember that it’s all about the mom-to-be and whatever celebrating looks like for HER. I’ve had big showers thrown for me that were lovely and a few that were just family and more of a prayer time with food (food is probably the only MUST). It doesn’t have to look like the traditional punch and flowers with fancy dresses.
Make Thank You Notes Easy
One way that Basic Invite rocks with this is that they offer a simple address collection + free envelope printing. Basically, you share a link with guests to get addresses added to a list so you aren’t scrambling for them when it’s time to write thank-you notes. You can also order a baby shower thank you card through Basic Invite!
Another way to make this easy is to purchase thank you notes FOR the mom to be and put the envelopes out on the greeting table where you might have a guest book. Each guest self addresses his or her own envelope. Genius!
How’d I do? What did I miss? Let me know your baby shower tips in the comments! I’m sure I missed some and would love to hear your input! Or feel free to share horror stories. We all learn a lot from those!