I have to start this post off with a caveat. For many (or most?) of us, the idea of being a Fun Mom sounds like one or a combination of the following:
1. A mom who doesn’t discipline her kids
2. A mom who is somehow faking it
3. A mom who must have one super EASY child
4. An idea someone crated to make you feel guilty about how hard it is to just be A mom
5. Regina George’s mom from Mean Girls
(but remember she was a COOL mom, not a FUN mom)
But being a Fun Mom doesn’t mean being the mom who lets her kids run the house. And this post is NOT about making you feel guilty. You see, lately (and for a long time?) I have struggled with feeling like the grumpiest, no-fun mom on the planet. I walk around the house shushing people when they laugh because it’s too loud. (True story.) I made this list as a way to remind myself to ENJOY even these hard days of having lots of little kids. I made this list to give me tangible things to think about in hopes I can work on my very attitude about being a mom. I want to enjoy my time with my kids and I want them to remember me laughing and smiling and playing.
A quick story about MY mom. She has many times said that she wishes she laughed more and stressed less when we were little. But this is one VERY distinct memory I have of her from childhood. We were in the kitchen and she was about to dump spaghetti into the boiling water. The box had apparently been opened from both sides, so when she picked it up, the whole box dumped into the floor. I sort of froze, waiting to see what would happen.
She began to laugh. Giggling at first, then LAUGHING.
I had a camera in my hand and I took a photo of this moment, captured somewhere in a shoe box. It isn’t a great photo, but one that captures that moment of laughter. I think this memory demonstrates why it’s so important to want to (at least some of the time) be a Fun Mom. It makes a huge impression on our kids. It is memorable.
1. Put down your phone.
And iPad. And laptop. Not all the time. But significant portion of time. Be present.