After announcing our fourth pregnancy (INSANITY!), I thought I’d give you some nitty gritty details about this whole thing. Because I know you people. You are nosy, nosy people. I’m the same way with my friends and even blogs I stalk, so here you go. Some of this might get a little TMI, so be prepared. I will talk about things like PERIODS and MENSTRUAL CYCLES. I put those in all caps to scare away the men, or just to let them know they are going to get some of that. Still with me? Here goes.
How did you find out you were pregnant and when?I had actually suspected I was pregnant in October because I got a short period in September. Cooper was only 4 months old in September and that was way earlier than I got my period after having the boys, so I thought maybe it was just random bleeding or my body being weird, because when you are breastfeeding after having a baby, sometimes stuff is just weird. I never got another period, so at the end of October I took like five pregnancy tests. Nada. I figured the period was a fluke. In the first week of December, I had this week where I just felt nauseous all the time and suddenly a light went off: pregnant? I borrowed a test from my sister in law (when David was in the army, I guess they gave him like 500 tests or something) and almost forgot to take it. I had just sat down with a beer to watch a movie and then remembered the test. I took it and then put the beer back and got water. 🙂
How did you tell Rob?Via text. Because we are in the digital age. He was not surprised because I told him I felt vomit-y.
When are you due?
Are you trying for a home birth or VBAC?Those ships have sailed, my friends. Though I am supportive of women getting really educated about birth and birth choice (read Creating Your Birth Plan —affiliate link!—as a good start for this), after the second failed home birth I knew I was done. Some midwives do VBACs, but I wasn’t comfortable with it and felt like two strikes meant I was out anyway. VBAC did not work last time (that’s vaginal birth after having a cesarean and you can read more about the whys here), so after two C-sections, you have no option to NOT have another one. Unless you accidentally give birth in your car or something. This is HUGE reason why you should be very wise in making a decision about a C-section if your doctor recommends that. Knowing some of the valid reasons and some of the reasons doctors might suggest a VBAC that AREN’T so valid is important. After you have one, it’s very very difficult to not have another. After two, you are done unless you want to try home birth and can find a midwife who will do that. I probably wouldn’t recommend that. Again, be educated, ladies! It’s your body and your baby. Don’t get coerced, scared, or forced into something that isn’t medically necessary. This happens more than it should, which is why I mention it. I’m actually looking forward to having the first birth that, barring disaster, I know what to expect and when to expect it. We will, barring disaster, get the kind of birth we are planning this time, unlike every other time when things changed at the last minute or the last week.
Are you giving birth in the same place?
Yes! I loved my doctor, Dr Espana, and he is in the Women’s Pavilion in Texas Children’s. It is a very family-centric hospital in that they encourage things like skin on skin contact asap after a c-section (a lot of hospitals won’t let you have the baby on you while they are finishing up the surgery but I had Cooper with me almost the whole time), earliest possible breastfeeding with great support, and whatever family/visitors you want to be there with you. The food is also like real restaurant food and they have great options in the labor rooms like tubs, birthing balls, etc. Super supportive of choices and very cushy. Loved it!
How are the kids?
Cooper has no reaction, which was a bit rude of her, and the boys are excited. They sort of kept the secret well for a while, but not really. I wanted to tell them early because I knew Sawyer especially would be happy. He told his whole school. “They wanted to know, Mommy,” he said. Probably true. They both say they want a boy.
Are you finding out the sex?
Do you have any guesses?
I’m guessing girl. My pregnancies with the boys were both identical to each other and this one is more like Cooper’s. I haven’t had migraines yet (well, one), but am feeling nauseated almost all the time. I have thrown up already more than with Cooper also.
Are you still breastfeeding? How’s that working out?
I’m exhausted. The good thing is that I went through the first, most exhausted period without even knowing it. I did have a time in October where I napped more (which is another reason I thought I was pregnant then until the tests said no), but now I’m just generally tired, not that bone-dead tired of early pregnancy. I’m just about out of the first trimester, so it’s easier. Cooper is eating an insane amount of solid food and I also have started her on a bottle of two of formula a day. So far she isn’t nursing any less and I’d like to get her to a year and still nurse, but I wasn’t sure I was excited about tandem nursing (nursing her AND the baby) so plan to wean her before then. I’m feeling right now really used up between the two babies, so having her able to take bottles felt important to me. She still nurses every 2-4 hours (even at night) so Mommy is feeling weighed down and like a little break might be nice. Some people said this would make me more sore (breastfeeding while pregnant) but it didn’t. I did feel like she started nursing more around October, so my supply may have dropped some.
Do you have names?
Yup. Well, boy name for sure and we have a bunch of girl names we’re tossing around. We like original names, or at least ones that aren’t that common, so we want to keep with that. We always had a harder time with girl names, so who knows if we’ll decide for sure or wait like we did with both Sawyer and Cooper. We waited til we saw them before we named them.
How are you feeling?
Like barfing all the time. Usually I don’t barf, and when I do, it’s mostly dry heaving where I’m retching, but nothing comes up. Which is still painful, but it keeps all the food where it should be. Just this morning I was washing out a pan and the smell grossed me out and I started retching. Gross. Also, my gag reflex is insane, so if I start coughing, I’ll barf, and sometimes I throw up while brushing my teeth. I still have loads of energy and generally feel fine otherwise.
How are you feeling about the fact that you’re pregnant?
It’s a little insane that we are having kids so close together! Cooper and this baby will be 14 months apart. INSANITY! Who wants to come be my nanny?? I am actually super excited and will freak out about how hard it will be later. This was the first time post baby that I was like, “I want another baby!” even the first day Cooper was born. I know in labor with Sawyer I told Rob, “WE ARE ADOPTING ALL OTHER BABIES,” and it took me like a year to feel like I would even consider birth again. With Lincoln the c-section was a surprise and such a hard recovery that I also didn’t want to think about babies. We tried to get pregnant when he was almost two but it didn’t happen in the four month period we tried and then I wanted more time so I skated another season of derby, which felt like the right time. This is the closest together they’ve ever been or we’ve ever wanted them to be. I’m super excited, but know I will totally have my hands full.
Anything you’re freaked out about?
Cooper is sleeping worse now than she did months ago, so I am really sad knowing I will have at least two years in a row without a full night’s sleep. Probably the longest stretch I’ve had since she’s been born is five hours at a time, and that’s rare. Very rare. Mostly she is up and trying to eat every 2-3 hours like Sawyer was. My hope is that as we wean her, that will change, and often during that transition Rob does the night wakings because otherwise if it’s me, she smells me and wants to nurse even just for comfort. Right now she wakes up generally around midnight to eat, and if I’m already in bed she co-sleeps from that time on, but if I’m up, I’ll feed her and put her to bed and she might sleep til 3am if I’m lucky and then wakes up. I AM SO VERY TIRED. I know I don’t need lots of sleep and that’s probably the only reason I’m not dead.
How are you going to handle rooms and the nursery and all that?
I have no clue. I just realized we’ll need two cribs. We have one designated nursery and Cooper will probably be there for at least 6 months to a year after this baby is born. We aren’t so strict on babies staying a crib after they can climb out. Sawyer started climbing out at a year or less, so he got a big boy bed just before Linc was born, when Sawyer was a year and a half. Lincoln slept well in the crib until he was two and a half. We still have one spare bedroom that is the guest room and I’d like to long-term stay the guest room, so after we are out of baby land, we will figure out how the sharing goes. Probably have a boy room and girl room, or maybe have Cooper briefly be with the boys until the baby is out of the nursery. We are big on kids sharing rooms.
Any weird cravings?
Like last pregnancy, raw human brains sound great. I swear that’s not a joke. I know it’s gross, but that doesn’t stop it from sounding tasty. I’ve been watching a lot of “Chopped” lately, and another gross craving is any raw organs. Like hearts and livers and any other weird things they’re using. I don’t know why raw, but the site of them is just…delicious. Zombie baby part two! Other than that, I am loving all things peppermint, especially minty ice cream or milk shakes. I’ve been craving leafy veggies as well and eating lots of salad and arugula. Otherwise, I still just like eating All The Foods.
How many kids do you want?
I am considering this to maybe be the last, but I know Rob always dreamed of five (he was number five out of seven), so there is the chance we may do one more. But I love the idea of being done. I want to enjoy my kids and be done with the baby-making part and also just want to feel like my body is MY BODY again. I have struggled to lose the baby weight after Cooper especially, and it’s really hard to think of dieting or do that healthily while nursing for me. I know it’s possible, but mentally I just struggle with it. I still exercise a ton, so I’m in good shape, but for me to lose weight I need to really change my intake and that’s hard. It’s also hard to lose weight knowing you’re going to gain it again. For me, I’d love to know I’m done so I can be all gung-ho and know I’m not going to just gain another 30-40 pounds after just having lost 30-40 pounds.
How do you get pregnant so easily? Are you using birth control so we can know what kind doesn’t work?
(Love that last question from Jody on FB.) I don’t know how this works. I will say that I’m not so fertile as I seem. With Sawyer, it took us 9 months of trying to get pregnant. We tried when Lincoln was about 18 months old for four or five months and nothing happened. But with Lincoln and Cooper it was immediate. The first month we stopped using any birth control (we generally stick to not using the pill or other forms like that), I got pregnant. With this baby, after my first period we got pregnant immediately. So I guess there are just seasons or times?
Any questions that I missed or you still have? Leave a comment! I love sharing info, even TMI, with you guys.