I am starting a maybe new and maybe never again weekly vlog feature. This week, I’m talking the Stephentown 300 and parental responsibility. While my kids are talking What the Fox Say. Oh. My.
I really do want to be a person who supports and gives grace to parents all around. It’s hard, this parenting gig, and you never know the circumstances of families or kids unless you’re living it. I’m very free and open with people parenting in different ways as it works for each individual family.
However. I am really pretty hard-core that parents need to be parents. This means giving discipline IN LOVE. Discipline really IS love, not some separate or opposite thing. I don’t think it’s loving to give your children everything, because everything isn’t good for them. I don’t think it’s loving when parents don’t set boundaries and let their children behave in whatever way seems best. I don’t think it’s loving to give into tantrums or to cover up after your children so they don’t feel the sting of consequences.
So as much as I want to be supportive and grace-giving and I DON’T know the story behind all the families of the Stephentown 300, I know that if my children were involved, I’d want them to take responsibility. I would want to take my own responsibility where needed as well. There would be discussions and consequences and apologies and heck, maybe jail time.
Teaching our kids responsibility starts now, but that doesn’t mean they’ll behave any different later. Hopefully they will, but I’ve seen plenty of parents parent well to have their children go off the rails. I want to show grace to the parents of those Stephentown 300, but also learn my own lesson of being hardcore on what I’m teaching my children now, so that hopefully we won’t be learning that kind of lesson then through any kind of similar circumstance.
Please let me know if you’d like a weekly Coffee with Kiki Vlog where I let it all hang out!